Hi all! In this post I want to bring our feelings to the forefront. I am giving you permission to no longer suppress them or hide behind our daily to do list. This post is about making you and your feelings a priority. So how do we accomplish that? Well, the first thing is being honest with yourself…
How are you feeling? What are you struggling with today? What are you succeeding at? What is making you happy?
When I am talking about feelings, I am not just referring to the negative ones which may be consuming you at the moment, but I am also referring to the whole spectrum of emotions that may be dancing across your mind from day to day or even hour to hour. For me personally, I am feeling motivated and energetic today but that comes after a day of feeling unmotivated and at times overwhelmed with the sadness that this pandemic, in my eyes, is keeping me from the things I love. And in those moments of despair, it is very difficult to give yourself permission to feel this way, as some may experience guilt or some may experience fear that they will get stuck in negativity.
if we are feeling stuck in a negative emotion, I feel that it is important for us to acknowledge and to be mindful and intentional about choosing to feel another, different, emotion which we have danced, on the spectrum. And, I do not mean switching from one extreme to another. I simply mean, feeling the slightest fragment of another emotion. It may be the boost we need to pull ourselves out. For example, I give myself permission to be angry, sad, unmotivated and “blah”. I recognize that this is a valid emotion to experience during this time of chaos. However, I will not give the negativity permission to control me by suppressing them, or by giving it too much thought. So how do we do this? Well, I think a great way to validate and normalize our feelings without letting them fester is through journaling. Be intentional about what you are journaling. Utilize prompts specific to the waves of emotion you have been riding over the past few weeks.
An example of prompts I may use would be:
- How are you feeling today?
- What thoughts may be accompanying your feelings?
- Are these realistic thoughts?
- If not, how can I challenge them?
- What is one thing I can do to refocus myself?
- If I can find one thing positive about my day what would it be?
These prompts may not work for everyone but they are meant to act as a guide or point of jumping off. Finally, now that we have recognized our feelings and identified a way to explore them, we need to be intentional in scheduling time in our day to be at one with our thoughts and feelings. It does not need to be a long period of time. The time set aside does, however, have to be a priority because if we do not make ourselves a priority we can not continue to be emotionally and physically available to the demands of our new normal. I want to end the vlog by taking some time to practice some positive affirmations. Not only have we taken the time to affirm our feelings and normalize them but let’s take some time to affirm ourselves. Some examples of positive affirmations include:
Today will be a GOOD day!
I am doing the best I can.
I will not compare myself to others.
My feelings are valid and true.
I will do my best to make today a good day.
I am STRONG.
I am RESILIENT
You’ve made it to the end! I thank you all for reading.
We can and will get through this together! I wish you all luck on your journaling endeavours!
See you next time for Self-Care!
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Megan Turner LCSW, has been providing therapeutic services to children and families for over 7 years. She specializes in the treating depression, mood disorders, anxiety, personality disorders, parenting skills and family dynamics.